Life Don't Clickety-Clack Down a Straight-Line Track

Jeez what a week. First Father's Day, then an anniversary as we ticked that much closer to the 50-year mark - if you use my mother’s reckoning anyway : “Here you are almost 20 and still acting like a child!” she once shouted at my sister.(Nan was 12 at the time.)Also we signed our wills AND I said goodbye the eight teens who fill most of my thoughts from September to June. AND, as yesterday’s entry shows, a new person came to live here a while who is not just a person but am actual MD person, a Fellow in Infectious Disease. (“So I have this rash” I see myself saying to over our 6am. coffee mugs.)A few nights ago, when everyone was here celebrating Doc Sarah’s arrival, a call came in to David from our only ‘away’ child, to say that after being gone for five years he was now planning to move back here, get an apartment a few towns over and see what his future looked like from there. When he heard the happy din in the background and learned that the rest of his generational cohort was here, he reportedly said, “Hey what’s the idea, having fun without me!”It got me thinking how all these young ones will be having fun without the two of us one day. Updating your will sure drives that point home. Life goes on, as they say,  but darned if its mysterious ways don’t keep on surprising us.There's a great old Ferron tune, here covered by Sarah Kenvyn. Ferron is talking about the end of a relationship but still. That lyric about how life don't clickety-clack down a straight-line track, it together and it comes apart?  well THAT lyric seems to me to be applicable to quite a bit in this life. Listen to the lovely Ms. Kenvyn here and see if you don't see what I mean. [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vMpXPqeDH_o]

Keep Calm

Keep calm and carry on: Good advice for us all right now in our state of near-panic over Japan’s unfolding tragedy. I saw Professor George Scarlett of Tufts University's famous Eliot-Pearson School of Child Development on TV this morning and he says that’s the ticket for us all now, especially as we relate to the children in our lives.He gave some basic Dos and Don’ts: Don’t say “Oh that’s way over there,” thus downplaying the magnitude of the loss, and don’t fan the fears that such a cataclysm is due here too any minute.  I especially see the wisdom of this last. Children are so tender; and if I’ve learned anything as a worker with youth all these years it’s that teens are too, with a world view still very much in the making.)In sum he says to (a) model an appropriate behaviors of concern and compassion but also of optimism that all will be well; (b) use this as an opportunity to help them learn about the forces of nature world; and (c) model helping behaviors in any way that seems natural for your family, from donating money to simply praying of prayer can ever be called simple.The worst thing I have seen people do and I’m sorry to say it’s older people who do it is to say “Oh the world is going to ruin. I’m glad I lived when I did!" If you feel that way I say go become a day trader or a mime or a toll taker at the edge of a bridge in the back end of nowhere, but please please please stay away from the young.And now if you have the six minutes, click here for one of the world’s tenderest songs by a singer-songwriter I have loved through all her career, from the wild rebellious young redhead she was at the Michigan Women’s Festival in the early 80s to today when she is.. well, not so young, but still so strong in her heart. "Clean your house in troubled times" the words say and seek out those people who will wait for you when you are walking through your own private hell.Seek good friends and clean your house. Stay calm and carry on.